The principle of Nike - Just Do It - worked well for me today. I was so sick of eating off of disposable dishes, I got a plate out of the box, and ended up not stopping until I had completed the great shelf project. All of the stuff W left here is now on shelves in the back room! And I put down the rugs that were rolled up. I even swept the floor and vacuumed the rugs! That includes the dirt I swept under the entryway rug in the front room weeks ago when W was coming over after having said I wasn't keeping the place clean.
There's a lot of emotions associated with stuff. First of all was the sadness/anger over having to unpack stuff that was packed up to go to our new home, together. Then there's stuff that it kind of makes me angry to see that she rejected, and brought back here, or left behind in the first place. Of course, that works both ways. I got to take those things that I never liked and either shelve them, or slip them in with stuff she was taking over to the house.
Other stuff I'm glad she left, like the mementos and ashes of our beloved "poor sick kitty" who made it 17 yrs with tender loving care through a heart condition most cats don't survive for more than a few years.
The Silverware Incident: here's a funny little tale. We had two sets of dishes (there's a funny story behind that, too, but one at a time here.... I'm easily distracted). ;-) So, anyway, those dishes - I figured she could bring me one set and keep the other, which she promptly did after 3 wks or so... But I figured there's no need to split up a matching set of silverware. I decided to just grab a handful from the thrift store to use for the duration. Yesterday, on our usual Saturday date/get together/whatever we went to the Goodwill store. She saw me going through the silverware and sidled up to me and said she could find the silverware at the house soon. I said it was no big deal and that I didn't want to split up the set. She seemed slightly upset about it. I'm wondering if that was an "act of service" kind of thing for her to find and bring over some silverware.
But I figured there's no need to split up a matching set of silverware. I decided to just grab a handful from the thrift store to use for the duration. Yesterday, on our usual Saturday date/get together/whatever we went to the Goodwill store. She saw me going through the silverware and sidled up to me and said she could find the silverware at the house soon. I said it was no big deal and that I didn't want to split up the set. She seemed slightly upset about it. I'm wondering if that was an "act of service" kind of thing for her to find and bring over some silverware. 
