indigo, Try not to read too much into what she's saying. She's still a very confused woman and wants to ensure that you are right where she left you. If you happen to have a conversation w/her about the call, listen, but keep your expectations at zero.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I know not to get my hopes up at all, it just stinks when W throws out this kinda stuff on me. She wants to meet somewhere later on this evening to talk I guess. Id rather do it in person anyways, its a lot easier to say stuff like that thru a text message than to look someone in the eyes and say it. I'm sure its not the right thing to say to her, but I feel like she needs to let me know if its the idea of me moving on that bothers her or that she really wants to try to work on us.
separated since 9/01/13 M-31 W-36 D-4 Move back home 12/26/13 3 months of tough times Finally in a happy M
" Every time I think about you with someone else, in a house that should've been mine, with a life that I begged for all those years it breaks my heart."
So is it the possessions she wants or you she wants? What life has she begged for?
I'm not hearing it is you, and your relationship?
Something to ponder before the face to face.
Good luck <3
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
I agree with what you just said there. And that is what concerns me.
Also from last night...
W- I want the fairy tale. I know that sounds really cheesy but its the only way I can describe it. I want to be the center of your world. I need to be able to count on you, trust you, know that you'll protect me no matter what and know you will always keep your promises. I'm asking a lot I know that but I don't want mediocre I want extraordinary.
separated since 9/01/13 M-31 W-36 D-4 Move back home 12/26/13 3 months of tough times Finally in a happy M
Not to mention the last time she opened up like this she was drunk and did not even recall the conversation. No word from her today yet, so I'm leaning toward this being the same deal.
separated since 9/01/13 M-31 W-36 D-4 Move back home 12/26/13 3 months of tough times Finally in a happy M
Take back that last post, she just called. Her parents are going to watch D for a little while later so we can grab a bite to eat somewhere and talk. I'll be back on here later tonight giving updates.
separated since 9/01/13 M-31 W-36 D-4 Move back home 12/26/13 3 months of tough times Finally in a happy M
- be careful with that. This popular notion is what often creates co-dependent relationships. Be careful of the roller coaster ride. From where I stand you seem to be already making her the center of your world and this is exactly what's driving you nuts. I know it's hard as he11, but you need to let her go.
You seem to be willing to drop anything you're doing at any moment if she comes into the picture. Can you somehow show her that you have a life of your own as well and not just waiting around for her all the time? Even if you reconcile, you both need to be able to survive on your own. She seems to have some big personal issues to work on before getting into a stable relationship, even with you.
ETC
"Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
That was her texting to me. She has seen that I am moving on and getting a life on my own and I think thats what is triggering this sudden change in her thinking. I'll just have to see how tonight goes, heading to NY for a week on thursday. As always, I enjoy getting other peoples perspective on things.
separated since 9/01/13 M-31 W-36 D-4 Move back home 12/26/13 3 months of tough times Finally in a happy M
