I'm so sorry you here Ice. It sounds like your wife has been having an affair. They tend to deny it even if you have all the proof in the world. The reason for that is they don't think they're having an affair, in their minds the marriage is OVER already and its no longer cheating if the marriage is kaput.
Theres not much you can do at this time if your wife is in that state of mind BUT take care of yourself and back off, wayyyyyy off. Make sure your eating, getting sleep and taking care of yourself and your kid(s).
Your marriage is over, that doesn't mean it cant be found again at some later date thou. Its gonna take a lot of work, its gonna take a lot of patience. And most importantly you need to let her go. It sounds so easy, of course you know its not. As long as theres OM in the picture, its best to go dim/dark. I know it feels counter intuitive, but its for you as much is it is for her.
Theres nothing you can do for the time being to fix your marriage im sorry to say, but you can do more damage. Maybe you can post in the signature line, your ages, time together, time married, any/all kids. KEEP POSTING here on this thread so ppl have all the information in one spot. Journal here when your having a bad day, need advice, or just cant figure out what the he!! your doing with yourself. Have you checked out getting into some counseling for yourself?? DONT ASK FOR MARRIAGE COUNCELING.
Read other peoples posts, feel free to throw out your 2 cents, as you will get a lot more ppl coming to your thread with support/advice. But also read some threads to see exactly how long this can last, reactions, and advice others have received. Read Sandi's post on 37 things to do, its at the top of the section and has some tools you will need for now.
Slow down, I know the world feels like its falling on your head, but we're all gonna help you get thru this. You can do it. For now, tell us a little bit more about why you think this is happening, especially in regards to what you think you might have done different if you could go back in time? Even with first wife, what changes do you need to make for yourself? Give an honest, open assessment. This can be brutal and tricky, but can give some of the vets more insight on advice.
