Hi All sorry about all the threads. I did not realise this was moderated and thought I had deleted rather than posted some how.
How can I remove them to just one. I will just stick to this one.
It wasn't a plan for him to read the book.It was the first chapter about the negative consequences of divorce we were discussing.
I did not actually see the advice from the book as tactics to get him back. More as advice on looking critically at my behaviours and assessing what changes I need to make in mmyself to be more independent and less controlling, not just in this relationship. It has given much food for thought.
