Hiya Bea. First of all, trust me on this, the cuckoo is still flying around the clock. So no worries, I am sure more entertainment is coming your way. LOL!
Maybe they value it like we value love and friendship because it is safe.
Thought about this. ^^^^. I am thinking that is true where xh is concerned.
I got to thinking. I know some people who grow up without money and so things become very important to them. But then there are others, like me, (we were very poor),who grow up and stuff just doesnt mean a whole lot, but, people mean a great deal.
My xh and his family was not as poor as we were. He and his family were somewhat better off than we were, though not by a whole lot.
But he was very much into having things and getting the best things from when were started dating as teenagers. And I would tell him, even back then, that those things were not important to me.
Throughout out marriage, we struggled, yet, he kept buying stuff. It was a bone of contention, to be sure.
And throughout his MLC, it has gotten even worse.
I think, looking back, that he had low self esteem. And that things seem to make him feel better for a little while.
He never could make real connections with people. So, maybe this safe and a way for him to feel good.
I dont understand that mindset, though. Never did. And the fact that he can buy a BMW, while he screwed me over and is still doing so, is something I really cant get my mind around.
