Guess I belong here now...

[sweetbabyred]

Linda, thanks so much for checking in!

I had a great Halloween. I went with xh, ss, and two of xh's male friends trick or treating. SS lives almost two hours away, so it was a lot of time in the car, but it was well worth it.

I found out that ss will be moving back to ny later this month or by february. His mom isn't sure what the army is going to have them do. So I might not have that much time left with him before he goes and I want to make the most of it.

Linda, I'm glad that you don't necessarily agree with what I posted. I'd like to think that xh will realize how amazing I am if I'm nearby, but I'm not sure about that.

I did lrt last year for about six months when xh was involved with ow3. I only contacted him by email or text and only when it concerned a bill that he owed. He would contact me by phone, usually late at night, but I didn't start any conversations.

I think I'm doing ok in school. I haven't gotten any grades in one of my classes and both professors were mia for about a month. I'd love to keep my 4.0, but as long as I pass I should get my degree next May, so I'm trying not to stress about it too much.

Xh moved into his new apt early this week and I helped him a lot with that. Turns out his new sports car isn't too practical when it comes to moving anything of any substantial size! I did think it was odd that he kept asking for my opinion on how he should organize his kitchen cabinets and drawers.

He still has his "almost girlfriend" in fl, but I asked him not to call her in front of me because he wouldn't want me talking to guys in front of him. I can't stop him from moving on, but I don't have to hear about it. It was a small boundary, but he seems to be respecting it.

Every time I see him it's because he's asked me over, but part of me is wondering if he's just doing so because he's lonely and the other woman lives in another state and isn't there to give him attention. I can't mindread, so I just enjoy spending time with him when I can.

Linda, I appreciate any advice you can give. It's good to get an outside opinion. And you're doing a great job. Your h is lucky you haven't hit him over the head with a frying pan with some of the craziness he's been trying to pull in your house. Those salt shakers would have been "accidentally dropped" and broken if they were in my house!