PATIENCE PROMISCUITY AND PROFIDIOUSNESS

[LoisB]

Holy Cow are you the WOMAN!!! You faced him, in person!, and didn't cause any scene or give away your cards. Amba, that's so amazing. You will be fine. You will. You have incredible strength and self-control.

My father cheated on my mom, I was 12 when it started and I never got over that.

I cried walking down the wedding aisle because of the fear of repetition. It was so traumatic. His father did the same thing to his mom.

My dad cheated too, multiple times, then married his secretary when I was high school. My grandfather did the same thing. I married Smokey Joe because he was my bestest friend through all of it and HE would NEVER, EVER do THAT to me. He did.

Give yourself some time to digest all this information. Once it sinks in some, the perspective will come a little at a time. The reality of the situation. I don't mean the reality like, "You have to kick the bum to the curb" reality.

I mean that the truth of the affair and what it really means in the grand scheme of things. It truly means nothing. Not to say it doesn't hurt or mean nothing to your marriage, mind you. But, she means nothing. And, slowly, the reality of that truth will sink in.

I'm so sorry though that you had this happen when you were feeling so good. It's not fair. It just isn't, especially since you had to watch this happen to your mom. I know how hard it is to relive that painful memory and see your own kids have to deal with it.

Heather