I know you're anxious to get the meeting over with but since you've already emailed her about it and she hasn't responded, calling her may cause her to feel pressure. I'd say try to keep your mind off of what the lawyer said....let her reach out to you in her own time.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope