WHEN PATIENCE IS LOST

[Ambivalent]

She must be young, cause someone my age wouldn't care...

[RosaLinda]

Oh Amba, I'm so sorry. But believe me, as everyone said, the OW means nothing. A bandaid. Doesn't make it hurt less, but with understanding, you can make a rational decision how you want to handle it. It does not diminish the true love that H for you, it's just uried behind the MLC slop right now Are you okay?

[job]

Ambivalent,
I'm sorry you are having to deal w/these findings today. You have to remember that the ow is just a symptom of depression/crisis. She's nothing more than a baindaid, just as alcohol, drugs, gambling, etc. are.

I know you are hurting badly, but please breathe! Come here to talk.

Please let us know if you are okay. Whatever you do, don't make any decisions for at least 24-48 hours. You don't want to say something that you can't take back.

[Ambivalent]

I find it interesting that he is taking Viagra. Especially since he made a point that everything was working just fine..." Oh the tangled web we weave...when at first we practice to deceive "

I'm not saying anything right now. What good will it do? Nothing. It'll be interesting to see how much more guilt he can carry around and function.

I'm stuffing it at present. He'll want to borrow my SUV for the whole hunting season, and face me and my accepting loving self.

I'm not going to worry about money, he can .

What type of woman allows a man to buy them clothes? A pants suit and jacket? I get the chemise, but the other?

And to think my youngest is trying so hard not to ask her daddy for any money, to keep the stress low.

My oldest could care less, she'd let him support her forever.

And all this coming from a guy who's upset about not having any retirement. Geez, I hate being a statistic and having this crap.

[Ambivalent]

H. just called ...all happy and proud! Why do I feel like sh!t?

Oh yeah, my husband is f-cking some gold digger. Wait 'till she finds out how in debt he is...

Wonder if she know about me? Perhaps that's why he bought her clothes, to assuage the guilt of using her too?

He still wants me to go see the butcher's place! Oh joy! Boy I want to punch him in his balls right now! What am I doing, and why do I care?

Is it my pride? Is it my dignity? I am so disappointed in him. I don't respect him right now.

You know , he said he was afraid I would hate him when all this was over. Was he doing it then? Was this his plan? F-ck around and then ....WHAT?

Why not just file? Why hold onto me? What is the point of dragging this out?

It makes me see him as a coward. A sniveling small minded, man-child. I don't like seeing him this weak. It is not attractive in any way shape or form.

I have no desire for him right now. I am going from hate to numb over and over again. I have to face him feeling rage that could kill.
It is such a completely disrespectful, dishonorable, way to be.

Where is the self respect. I will detach after seeing him.

No contact...He can contact me, but nothing from me. I'm not going to be available for awhile, I just can't take this behavior. How does one compartmentalize this? How does he live with himself? How does he look at his daughters?

Uuuuugh, what a waste of a person!

[Whiterose]

Everything you say is correct....he is a small minded, man-child. It's an awful feeling, for us, knowing we love a person that is so broken and undeserving.

Pulling back may be a good choice for you....to calm you down and gather yourself again.

I'm so sorry this is happening.....take care

[Ambivalent]

I just got back from the butcher's.

He was so proud. Had me decide on how the meat should be done. Chatty.

His friend thanked me profusely for the sandwich, said his wife would NEVER get up that early and make him a sandwich and coffee the way I did! He gave me a great big hug too.

I'm sure that stung! So husband said he'd call me tomorrow, I'm not holding my breath. He's heading to Fredericksburg to clean the guns, and then he has to drive all the way back to Annapolis...poor dear.

He asked me if it was okay to swap cars early Monday morning . Wow that was quick. Said his friend A. wanted to hunt again, would it be okay? "Suuuure."

I'm not a happy camper right now, and I hope he gets an erection that lasts for 6 to 8 hours, accompanied by nausea, dizziness, and ringing in the ears. If this happens while he's checking her oil, the better!

[job]

I'm glad you didn't confront him at the moment. The less you say, the better because all he'll do is deny and lie at this point. It's best to keep what you've learned to yourself because eventually, he will tell on himself in more ways than one.

This is your time to shine and show him the new and improved you. Yes, he's going to be coming out there quite a bit to hunt and you'll be able to observe his behavior more and more. As for contacting him...leave him be.

Something isn't adding up about the vehicle swap. Is he planning to be out all night Sunday night? I didn't think it was legal to hunt w/spot lights. I know it's not legal in MD. Just curious.

Hang in there. Find ways to get rid of that anger and anxiety. Ambivalent, no matter what happens, you are going to be okay.

[job]

BTW, you need to think about creating a new thread. I think I'm the 118th poster on this one.

[Ambivalent]

he will tell on himself in more ways than one

What do you mean?

No he isn't going to be hunting Sunday night.

He is saying he'll be at my house at 5:30 a.m. Monday morning.

No worries about contacting...Uuuugh, I have so much revulsion going on, I could give a flying...

I figure every time we swap, he'll leave more and more evidence if it is ongoing.

I just don't get the buying clothes thing though.

I thought confrontation takes the fun and excitement from their sexcapade.

Does MWD have any info on this? Not what to do after, but about confrontation? I'm having difficulty with this BIG TIME!