T2, You've done the hard and necessary work on yourself. Your w still has a ways to go. I think she was spooked by the issues from the last IC session and will need some time to think about them. In my opinion, she will need to work w/the IC a bit longer. She's still fragile and needs some hand holding in that department.
Overall, I can see the reconnections taking place at a nice pace. She's warming up to her children and her home. Yes, she's even warming up a bit towards you, but like most mlcers who return home, they keep their bags backed for a long time, just so that they know that they are ready to run if it is necessary. It's like a security blanket to them. One day very soon, she'll unpack those bags. DebM's husband was the same way and he eventually did unpack his.
I think she's baking up nicely and I know you get frustrated and want her back totally right now, but it takes time. You've done an excellent job up till now...keep thinking positive and dig for more patience.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
