WR, You can't predict what the future holds. You can only focus on the gift that you have now...the present. The past is long gone. So, let's keep our focus on the present...okay?
I had an extremely angry mlcer, but w/time, space and a divorce, he eventually did settle down, but it took a long time for him to get there. We have had some civil emails and a couple of phone conversations over the years, but I don't like the person he is today. So, yes, they can settle down and hopefully your h won't go out there and do a lot of stupid stuff and then live to regret it later on.
I'm glad to read that the boys are getting excited for Christmas. It is a time of hope and family gatherings. I do hope that your sons won't be disappointed if their father doesn't participate in any of the family gatherings.
Try not to mind read. It tends to make us "assume" things.
Hang in there. You are just having one of those days on the coaster. It will level off again very soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
