Ambivalent, Breathe! I can tell you are getting angrier and more anxious by the minute. It's not going to help you any if you can't get a grip and calm down before you confront him.
As for the questions you posed, only he can answer them for you. Now, the question will be...is he telling you the truth. Mlcers are noted for being proficient in the lying department. They are great at gas lighting the lbs. So you'll need to watch the body language.
Not trying to trivialize your discovery today, but we all have found incriminating evidence sooner or later w/our respective mlcers. They are very clueless about leaving evidence lying around. You need to continue broadening your posting arena and start reading not only the recent postings on the forum, but those in the archives. I think you will discover that your h has been a very mild mlcer compared to others.
Please calm down and breathe! You need to be in control of your emotions before you confront him or you will get no answers tonight.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
