WHEN PATIENCE IS LOST

[RosaLinda]

okay, take a deep breath Amba. Hopefully one of the vets will step in to help you here. I am definitely NOT a vet!

But I do know that most of our MLCers have OP. It's part of the scenario. The receipt does not mean that H is having a PA, he could be embroiled in an EA. Not that an EA doesn't hurt just as much. Maybe it is neither. Why would he leave a receipt for Lord and Taylors where you could see it if he is having an affair? Maybe it is a gift for someone else, his sister. You? Gee I am so sorry Amba.

In Divorce Remedy, MDW wrote: "You are going to see and hear things you think are unfair and unjust...You are going to have to just let things happen, go with the flow....pushing an issue will only push him away. It is very important to give your husband space. He needs time to think, feel and experiment, even if part of the experimentation involves another woman....There may not be much that you can do right now to make things better, but there are a ton of things you can do to make things worse, like interrogation and issuing demands.....The one thing you have to keep in mind throughout this journey is that your husband will have to find his own answers....Letting go is amazingly difficult, but unless you do, your marriage probably won't work out. You have to learn to detach from your husband's confusion and let him struggle through it until he sees a clearing."

I know this is hard, that you were just so happy and now your world is rocking. It is up to you whether or not you want to confront your H about the receipt. Do you want to know he is having an affair? If it were me, I would just ask about the receipt, not accuse him of having an affair. I don't honestly know if I would have the nerve to do even that.