So the ring is back on his finger (yesterday). Things are rocky, not that I'm surprised. My question to all the seasoned DBer's here is when you talk about detaching and having zero expectations. How do you do that while holding out hope for the relationship.
I am having a hard time with this. With my last relationship, my H would leave for long periods of time and that somehow made it easier to detach and have no expectations and keep trucking along.
Here though I feel like our lack of relationship is staring me in the face! It is driving me crazy! Ugh! I want so badly to be able to detach while keeping my focus on the marriage. I'm worried that if I do this, I will run too far the other direction and end up being the WAS or ending up in a bad situation with another man.
I would also like information about GALing through the hard times. When your H(or W) is rejecting, blaming and throwing out negative energy, how do you maintain your GAL and happy-go-lucky attitude.
I feel like maybe I'm running circles around the answer but I just can't quite get my hands on it. Any thoughts?
