What you are posting here is more of the same as what you posted on the 180 forum.

Giving your husband the DB book was a very BAD idea.

You think that something you DO is going to change him.

Is that what you want, for you to be able to control him into changing?

You need to "LET GO"

He will either change or he wont.

Children either grow up or they dont.

You can not micro manage their lives.

Keep learning here and it will all start to make more sense.

Me-70, D37,S36