"She's gonna make it" by Garth Brooks....for all us LBS
He followed her to work this morning He’d never seen that dress before She seemed to sail right through Those dark clouds forming That he knows he’s headed for
After seven years of marriage He wanted out Now after seven months of freedom It’s clear that there’s no doubt
She’s gonna make it And he never will He’s at the foot of the mountain And she’s over that hill He’s sinkin’ at sea And her sails are filled She’s gonna make it And he never will
And you know it’s not like she’s forgot about him She’s just dealing with the pain And the fact that she’s survived so well without him You know it’s driving him insane
And the crazy thing about it Is she’d take him back But the fool in him that walked out Is the fool who just won’t ask
This is for all of us standers, both those of us whose spouses have left, and those trying to deal with a spouse still physically at home, but dabbling in EAs and PAs. I KNOW all of us will make it, and hope that our MLCers DON'T sink at sea, and that they make it too.
We are gonna make it!
Although my H is still physically living home with me, he is gone in spirit. Living in a cloud cuckoo land where the person who loves him most, who has supported him financially and emotionally thru his many illnesses, and who still adores him (me! ) has been vilified into a lying cheater.
I always knew, because I was an obsessed (hopefully reformed) snooper, that H told all of his EAs that I have been lying and cheating on him our entire married lives.
I sort of thought it funny when H told me he considers any woman who uses a vibrator unfaithful. During my "chat" with the Russian Tramp a few days ago (okay, I admit it, I screamed, she smirked, not much of a chat), I could see that he has convinced the RT of my unfaithfulness, when she snarkily justified her home wrecking by demanding that I look at my own past.
The worst thing to me was to read that this Amy honestly, whole heartedly believed the lies she made up about her husband. She convinced herself and everyone else by spreading "brilliant BS." I have been hoping that H was just pretending to believe that I have been a lying cheating POS for the past 38 years. But he even told this to his MOM, my MIL, both that I am a cheater and that he only stays with me for our sons. Luckily she loves me enough to confront me with it. She IS a lot like your MIL, Rose.
I guess all of our spouses have made up lies about us to justify their actions. But if they BELIEVE the lies, and if they refuse to see that the things we have changed about ourselves are real and permanent, even after years and years, what hope is there?
PS I was going to name this thread Portia's "Bogie coloured Bootie Burning Ceremony" or Nero's "As the bootie turns" LOL, but am feeling too down in the dumps. But don't worry, I'm sure I'll be back to my old self, able to convince myself of the probability of 9 impossible things before breakfast even, in no time. Copious amounts of caffeine should help
) has been vilified into a lying cheater. 