How to convince resistant LD wife?

[Ambivalent]

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Yes taking the lead may not happen. It is not a comfortable role for many women. Especially those of us who've been taught to be a lady.

I ache at the thought of how much I have crushed the sole of my husband. I really wish I had been given some sort of manual when I got married.

I guess that was what " the talk " a mom was supposed to give the bride on her wedding eve. I never got it.

I will say Dr. Laura's " The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands " would have probably prevented some issues. But let's not kid ourselves, there will always be issues.

Dr. Laura is pretty frank, and doesn't leave any room for ambiguity .

I also had a very shy perspective of what was acceptable in bed. The thought to ask or give feedback never even crossed my mind! I also never thought vocal " noise " was comfortable.

I hope and pray, that someday I can show my H. that he is so important to me that I was willing to learn all I could. That he is worthy of all of me, and all that I am able to give.
I understand how he doesn't want to go there with me. Rejection is very painful, and add that to a MLC, and it is a recipe for masochism . So I don't see his defenses coming down anytime soon.

What is ironic is , I'd jump his bones but I think that would put him off at this point. It would look desperate, and I couldn't handle the rejecting right now either.
He's in the

"... you look great, but I'm not sexually attracted to you." Or the

" I told the dr. that I was so excited to see how you have been going to the gymn and she looks awesome, but I'm not sexually attracted to you and I don't know why? "

I don't know how long this will last...
I know I've been there, and know it can come and go. I'm trying to give him the room to say how he feels and express his needs in other areas.

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