Thanks for the holiday advice...I agree we need to look at the bigger picture-Thanksgivng and Christmas...now & in the years to come. I would like to have us both there on the holidays but the tension when we are in the same room now is difficult to withstand. I'd rather now...I like what you said, ruby...start new traditions...hmmmmm

We haven't negotiated ANYTHING yet. We haven't even filed yet. We haven't even gone to the mediators yet either, although I scheduled then called today to reschedule because of a conflict.


I am nervous about negotiations..because I know I am going to lose time with the boys AND i know that there will be tension and hurt feelings and sadness all over again.

BUt, I am ready to get this started, so it can be over. The marriage, I mean. I know I will need to have a positive co-parenting R with him...but I think that ultimately we will be able to rise to the occasion for the sake of the children.

My life is moving forward, as I've said. I am now dating. I went on two "first dates" that didn't materialize to anything, then a third "first date" (all in the past 2 weeks). The third guy (I'll call him the pianoman...because he is an amazing pianist) and I really hit it off. We have talked (yes, talked!) on the phone for hours and hours and hours. A second date is on the agenda soon! smile

I just have to figure out the WHEN of dating with my boys' busy schedules and the fact that I have them 6/7 days a week! LOL!!
A nice, new problem to have!!! wink


M- 18 T-21
S-14,11 & 10
BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA)
H moved out 11-3-2012
10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life.
11-25-13 Jointly filed.