Perhaps, Lois, but it's incredibly helpful to hear and see such things. The vacant look provides some sort of help to your kids. In many cases, you as the LBS or child, don't get to see that. Many hide it well, even from themselves.
THX, I don't take it personally. This is a safe place for the anger. Many of us here are trying to help. We try to help as somebody who's been there or been through much more. It hurts the same regardless and we know that.
But we also try to help you through the anger and disbelief. We try to help you re-frame the questions and ultimately the focus.
We know, because we've been there or are there in some cases.
Rant away. Express the anger. Express the sadness. But always ask the harder questions of yourself. It's hard to see it right now, but over time you'll see the value in that in helping you deal with the challenges you are currently seeing at this point in your life. As you change your focus, you'll see things differently and you'll come to terms with what is vs. what you feel should be. It's a tough road, but worth it. I promise
For starters, how about re-thinking the household situation and the workload? Are you really helping the kids by not having them participate in the household chores? Is there a way you can do both? Neither you nor the kids asked for this situation, but is there a way to help them get some stability and "normalcy" in their lives? Can helping around the house help them? I suspect so, but curious what you think.
I'll leave you with this thought. You're a thinker. A problem-solver. Have you ever run into something that couldn't be figure out?
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
