There is a cause for every effect, right? We are living in the effect (mlc), I would want to know the cause, or likely causes/theories.
I think the cause is that she is afraid of getting old. And she feared spending the rest of her life with me, with the anchor of our creaky old house, our bills, our kids, our pets, and our dull middle-aged lifestyle dragging her down, down, down.
A possible trauma that just occurred to me - her hair is thinning. She has been grey for years but she always died it back, but recently it began to thin out a bit. Probably will be fine, but occasionally we see an old crone with really thin hair, and she fears that. But so do all women.
She wants to be hot, young, and fun. She wants to date single, exciting men, and thinks she will marry someone more exciting and richer than me. (We are middle class, but struggling.)
She wants to live alone in her brand-new spiffy-clean IKEA new apartment, in the hip section of town, surrounded by coffeehouses and near the old theater; to have her kids over as guests rather than residents.
When the kids are away, there is no sign of them in her place. They do not have their own rooms, and their stuff stays in my house. It is a one-bedroom apartment. S16 sleeps on a foldout couch and D14 shares the queen sized bed with mom.
She wants adventure. The sad thing is that my kids will only be home for a few more years, and we could have had the adventure she wanted.
Me:52 Wife:49 Married 19 years Son:16 Daughter:14 Bomb dropped with ILYBNILWY: May 2013 Wife moved out 2Jun13
