Questions on the 37 rules and other advice...

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I believe it has ALOT to do with whether there is OM involved. If she gave you a warning shot then do 180's FOR YOURSELF! You cant cater and smother. If you were distant (like I was) review your obligations and prioritize them. (I was out 4-5 nights a week with charities, chamber obligations, political events) I now have a simpler life,

Another distance issue I identified was alcohol and eating. I realized I used them as a escape. I addressed those issues as well- not addictions just used them the wrong way.
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Can you clarify what you mean by a warning shot? Even though she hasn't left yet, I think it has more to do with her wanting to find a job and be self-sufficient first. We haven't had a physical relationship since July (not even non-sexual affection).

In terms of escape, I have identified some "normal" but still unhealthy in context means of escape like activities with the kids, and eating. And then there is the unhealthy and immoral succumbing to online escape which, although being occasional and not on an addictive level, I know I have used it to escape. Of course, that brings shame and false intimacy.

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So what are you going to do these next two weeks? what steps will you take?

I am going to make another post with steps and 180s because I want advice on them.