God 1st. Wife, Jon... That simple. Don't try to rationalize everything out in your head. This reminds of the parable of the prodigal son, after he got tired and support ran low he realized where he was loved. Now his father could said see that's what you get but he welcomed him with open arms. Don't try to be your W's judge that's not your place, pray for her and build your marriage on the one who sanctioned the covenant in the 1st place. DBing is great and all but we are ALL human and have our own way we think you should do things. Seek God Jon, man will fail you every time!
Forgiveness doesn't mean weakness... Actually its the opposite.
