So dark dark it is I just wonder should I forward her the email to her?
If you want to stay dark but you feel she needs it, then just forward it on without comment.
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Yes, going dark n/c was and is for me but I will admit I have been hoping she would show something, anything.
I don't think I make it a secret that I personally feel that going dark doesn't help bring people back together. Sometimes the LBS needs it to fully detach and gather themselves, but it never seems to help the M any. I think the WAS often interprets going dark as the LBS being cold/ indifferent or even angry at them. I am 100% behind detaching, but detachment is just removing yourself from the roller coaster, it is not cutting all communications like some people think. MWD used the phrase "lovingly detach" in one of her books, I really wish she always coupled those two words together because I feel it gives a more accurate picture of the DB'ing approach.
Anyway, you've been dark for quite a while and if you feel it is not improving your sitch then perhaps it's time to call it a cheeseless tunnel and try something different.
