Originally Posted By: JFun51
Scary thought: I may have never really loved her to begin with. She came along at the right time when I needed someone to start my adult life with. She rescued me from a dark place in my life. She nurtured me like she nurtured her brother, her father, and does our kids now. She may have never loved me either. I filled a hole for her just like she filled a void for me. From the very beginning, we may have been going through the motions. Following an established plan:

1-Find a suitable mate in your early 20s
2-Marry, start a life.
3-Find some financial security
4-Have kids
5-Progress in your careers to provide for your kids
6-Find out you aren't really compatible
7-Fall out of love, distract yourself with activities
8-You know the rest

I think I'm going to be sick.


So is THAT ^^^ love ???

Or obligation ???

Maybe expectations ???

Chivalry ???

What exactly WAS that ???

What distinguishes the two for you ???