@AS - She told me the "cold" times were really more of her being ashamed/guilty/embarrassed and being sure that I would reject her flat out, so she would push away being certain I would crush her heart by hating her.
So, continued progress, I think. W did tell me she was calling OM today, had talked to the paralegal to make sure the dismissal was going, and said she was going to our "First Friday" (our downtown fun night) and was going to put her rings back on. She sent me a picture of herself in a new set of lingerie she said she bought for me when we were ready for that, and I told her that was pretty much torture. Sheesh.
We're taking a mutually agreed 24 hours of no contact (from yesterday), not even texting, to get an emotional break, and then will just see each other tonight at First Friday for an hour or so - which is a lot of kids running around, and stuff going on, so it won't even be romantic or anything.
I think once the call is done with OM, and I see the entry for the dismissal, I may ask W how she wants to proceed. I'm very supportive and validate, but I'm sort of letting her drive what she feels she can do. Is IC or MC the next step? Now that there's no divorce to bust, I'm feeling a little lost/overwhelmed. I don't feel any need to rush, but want to be looking ahead...
