Who is this woman & what has she done with my wife

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...MLC is a b*tch. I don't think she asked for this either. But she has to see whatever she is doing through, at any cost...

Thanks for the advice everyone. And I haven't done anything about confronting her over her 24-year-old boy toy yet. Except for doubling up on my own anti-depressant intake for a couple days.

I quoted AJM above, because I'd like to talk about the concept of responsibility he raised. I've read on the board that MLCer's are hurting, depressed, acting out, etc. But I am not convinced that W didn't ask for this. She is not merely an innocent bystander unable to control herself. Plenty of people have handled mid-life crises without having affairs, and leaving their children, their homes, and their spouses.

I can't accept the premise that my wife is simply blameless in this. I am justifiably furious about what she has done. I don't believe MLC is a disease or a medical psychosis. I beleive it is a snowballing series of really awful decisions which reflect poorly on her character.

Each bad decision adds to the rush she's getting, and each thrill makes it harder to turn around and see what she has wrought. Ultimately, it is about indulging in child-like narcissism, using denial as a defense, and refusing to accept the responsibilities of being a grown-up.