gathered some old posts.....hope they help

[RosaLinda]

Thanks Mach. This ripped my heart out, and will help us all stand another month, another year. It's the choice my first MC gave me 4 years ago. He said someday my H will wake up and realize the pain and destruction he has caused, and will become the best husband that he can. It's my choice whether to stand and have him be my excellent husband, or give up and have him be OW's excellent husband. Thank you. 

PS I guess men know how best to help other men, but still think it was harsh