Sorry for what you are going through. My two sense is that I agree that it is unfair to blame you for the accident when she was driving and that giving her the $500 will equal you accepting blame in her mind. But, in your situation, you have talked about one of your faults in your marriage was a lack of compassion and being there for her emotionally. Again, just my opinion, but if you were to say to her "I am sorry you got into an accident and is in a pinch, if you need some money for groceries to carry you through, let me know, I don't want you and D to go hungry" it might be seen as a positive sign that you care. Also, I wouldn't throw in that you have to be with her when she buys them if you are trying to restore trust. Trust given is trust gained...
CB
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
