So lost and hurt #3

[indigo1]

Do I have the money for the $500 deductable yes. But like you said we are not together so I feel she needs to know I'm not going to be there to bail her out everytime she needs help. If it comes down to not being able to buy groceries, obviously I'm going to give her money for that because it directly effects my D. My deal would be yes I'll give you money for groceries, but we are going to walmart together and I will pay so I know thats where the money is going.

Money was another one of the problems with our R. Wife is a spender and I'm a saver. This did cause trouble sometimes in our M. We had seperate checking accounts the entire time and I payed more than my share of the bills. I should have been better where that was concerned, but we never had to worry if something unexpected came up because I had money saved.

That is why I'm struggling with if I should help her out or not. It would be a 180 for sure to show her that I'm not hording money, but like I said I feel she needs to realize that we are not together and she is on her own. URRRR so confusing!!!!