I know how hard it is kelela. They hold a double standard. My H wants no one to know about his A. But he wants people to know that we are separated. It is a completely selfish double standard. You cant control his actions, but you can control yours.
I know that it is impossible and it seems like he is kicking you while you are already down. But we should not be surprised that our H's are acting in this manner. Heck - they are already having an affair. But they have justified it in their minds and they don't even understand that they are doing anything wrong.
