It DOES sound like he is doing a lot of thinking. I think your H needs LOTS of time to be in his own head, so keep doing what you are doing.
It is funny how we have to keep repeating things to them we have already told them. I find it hard not to have a smirk on my face when I have to repeat, because I find it humorous but don't want to laugh out loud and be insensitive. lol.
Stay on the path of YOU, it seems to be working. It's very interesting when you can actually observe this db working!
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.