Thank you for your replies. I just reposted because I thought the first post had been lost. What you say all rings very true and accuracy really hit the nail on the head as far as why it has all gone wrong. My repost asked for some places to start to rebuild. I am working on myself. Enjoying the things I enjoy, trying to maintain my balance, though it reallly hurts. H e has no plan for the future that I know of, he is living each day as it arrives. Knowing that I need to control and trying to work on avoiding that,what advice do you have. Let him do any planning and then if it fits in with my other plans already made well that works? We had a conversation about the tone of voice I use that irritates him. He said it was like an interrogation. I said I did nto realise that and it wasn't my intent. I tried the same question in a different tone. He said that was better. I ama teacher . I t is hard to change tones, especially as I did not know this was an issue. is it grasping at straws to think because he is now willing to engage with me about the things I do that are unacceptable to him that we might be starting on a good path. I cannot reax my book because he took it. He told me twice this week he was working on his writing about us. I did not react but later wrote an email that we are both unhappy and stressed and it is not a time for making decisions .I also said I had listened when he said he wanted space and I would leave making contact up to him if he wants to call or write that is fine but I will not be contacting him first.
What I didn't say was how much I miss him and how sad life is
