GALbaby and TTD180, many thanks for the positives and good wishes. I will be enjoying myself and I will be happy and act "me". It is the seeing everyone that will be hard, but I am telling myself I will get through it and I know how and what I should do. I will be fine.
All the best for you daughters 21st later this month, GALbaby. Believe it or not, but I still don't feel any older because of the party.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
HWA, it's a good opportunity to remind them you're not the crazy, evil wierdo your W has probably described to them. Just be calm and confident, chat without getting into anything deep.
I've been in sitches where person 1 told me crazy stuff about person 2, then when I saw person 2 again and they acted normal and sane it left me thinking that perhaps person 1 was the one that was really off the reservation. So strive for that. Leave them with a good impression.
I agree AS I'm sure my H has been bad mouthing me to various people as to what a b***h I am!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I agree AS I'm sure my H has been bad mouthing me to various people as to what a b***h I am!
You can bet on it! We're all getting dragged through the mud by our WAS's. All we can do is conduct ourselves with honor and dignity and let others see that in us. Fight words with actions.
Well back home. The W caught the same plane down as me. She didn't see me at the airport, nor on the plane, nor getting off the plane. Since she didn't want me to stop her being happy, I made sure she did the first move. She didn't. No mindreading, maybe she simply didn't see me. Anyway, she certainly doesn't look like she is a very happy person. Party went very well. I was there first, so said hello to everyone as they walked in. Gave the a kiss and a cuddle and acted like a friendly neighbour, including the same to the wife. I then spent the whole night going from group to group, chatting, listening and even validating. The wife stayed away from me and I made sure I didn't stay near the wife. She said goodbye at the end of the night along with the rest of her family. No stress, no emotional outbursts.....from me. If anything I really had no emotion at all, either to the wife or the family. I simply had a great night, made sure I showed how great it was with my boys, and other adults that were there. I made a speech, thanked the W and family members. I sent the W a text today, stating "thanks for doing a speech, I know it was an emotional thing to do". She didn't speak about us, just simply she was emotional talking about son. I got a reply back saying "thanks, it was a great night". I didn't reply to that. Overall, no problems at all. No sitch talks to anyone at the party. I think that was funny: the mother in law asked if I was transferring back at the end of the year. I said yes I was. She then asked which school. I said it is still be worked on. She just said, are you telling me the truth? You can't handle the truth MIL, is what I should have said. Instead just said yep, nothing confirmed yet. Even though it has been, no one would know. Also saw the bank manager, it looks like I will be able to borrow enough money to buy the houses and pay the wife out. Yay.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Excellent HWA!! Sounds like it went better than expected...Awesome...Whats up with the MIL probing you for answers? Is she the typical MIL who has to know everything???lol
It sounds like you handled this excellent and I was so happy reading your post! Great news about the bank as well – it looks like everything will fall into place now!
F
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
I agree with F and 2old, you did great I also agree with what 2old said about the MIL, she sounds like my mum, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I'm sure my H has been bad mouthing me to various people as to what a b***h I am!