New to the board, fairly newly LBS from MLC.

[tigerlily78]

Thanks Cadet for that amazing list of resources! I read the "newbies" note when I first joined so I have a good start on some of your recommended reading and I will be sure to follow through on the rest of it.

And yes, I want to get THE book when I have the finances to do it. Right now I am settling for a shipment of used books from a friend in a similar vein who went through her own husband's MLC successfully and with their marriage intact. But I am sure MWC's book will be my bible once I get it. I have printed off dozens of pages of info from the forum and put them into a notebook so I have easy access to read up and recondition myself even when I am away from the computer.

As for an update, WS spent almost the entire day here. I think he might have needed a break from the OW. Oh how funny would that be. He is an introvert trying to pretend he is Mr. Social Partytime... I think he is going to find it is more work than he thought it would be to keep up that facade.

I admit, I indulged a little cake eating today (I wanted cake too and it seems to be the one clear category where the WS admits I am far superior to OW). He asked for certain things and I resisted, what we did was on my terms (terms that are limited to the bedroom anyway).

That he didn't immediately have to flip the switch back to "Mr. Hyde" afterward and rush back out the door and stay away again for a prolonged period seems like a positive development. We even had a nap this afternoon together... completely separate in timing from the sexy cake-eating. He managed to stay here for a full 14 hours, which is considerably longer than he has wanted to be here for days.

I know, tomorrow things could go completely the other direction, but I am taking this thing one day at a time. Today felt good. I am going to let myself enjoy it. We accidentally fell into a little relationship talk via his initiation, I tried to dial that back down and change the subject. But he at least admitted that one of the things he said in the first week or so after the BD and that I had really questioned at the time as being stupid, was in fact stupid. I just about crapped my drawers from the shock of it. He might have said some things he didn't really mean, what a revelation!