Portia, you can be a more open person and still be a rock. I had to learn that too. I’ve been learning to express my feelings more and don’t judge people. I avoid complaining and wining like I did before. People around me still think I’m a strong person, but more approachable and open.
Why do you think he is playing you? He probably doesn’t know himself what he wants. You are still mad at him. I think this is the key. I’m on in the same boat right now. I’m just trying to remember how I was reacting to my first xH after I was completely over that R. There was no cell phones back then, so no texting. The communication was either over the phone or in person. I think that at some point I just stopped asking these questions “what did he want” or “why he was doing such and such”. It became just a routine to answer or not answer, if I didn’t feel like it. I guess I’m not there yet with my H right now. Neither are you. Give it some time. Like job keeps saying, the answers will come to you sooner or later.
So, I guess “do nothing” is good for now.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
