Fog City Coaster continues

[2ndtimearoundCA]

Hey Fly .. Thanks for stopping by! I will have to see if you updated your sitch.

At time of BD in February, there was ton of circumstantial evidence that w was seeing an OM. I don't know if anything physical would have started before BD or not. I never got any clarification on that. That OM is either over or it is casual and still going on, but not frequently. I am not 100% certain anything happened. It is a "Where there is smoke, there is fire" kind of thing.

Why I say that it is a virtual certainty that she has been physical since BD is because we have been separated for 8 months and when she left she said that "she needs sex". Before me, and after her first D, she was involved in other sexual relationships and some of them were very short lived. I actually suspect that she may have gone back to a previous boyfriend or more like "sex buddy". She was clearly not involved in anything serious a month ago because she reached out to me for sex (even though it didn't happen). I have a small amount of fear that she could actually find someone she likes and who likes her back. W thinks of me as an ex now even though we have done no legal work toward a D or even separation. At this point it is hard for me to be upset with her for anything she does with another man because we are not together.

My first w had an EA with the next door neighbor; that was very painful to watch. I held out hope, but when she met a new guy OM2 and was physical with him, I couldn't take that pain and I moved on. My first w is now married to OM2 and they have a daughter together. My M to w1 ended 10 years ago and we all get along well. I co-parent with w1. She is still married to OM2

Current w told me that her first marriage ended because her h always had his friends around and they had no time as a couple. Also she placed a lot of blame on some weird sex stuff that went on...

I was pretty good with the GALs up until my fall classes started. (I teach at a community college) I am technically just part time but teaching a full load right now. I also develop education content for an online homework system and that is a 75% time job so I am have trouble GALing right now. I do get to the gym often and was racing sailboats over the summer.

To me it sort of feels like w may be pulling away a little more, but it might all be in my head. When I had more of a life, time when by faster. Right now I am taking a step back to see what w does next. My birthday is in a few weeks and then we have the holidays. I have plans to spend the time with my family, but I am curious to see if w reaches out to spend some time with me.

According to w1 the reason our m ended was that I could not get along with her family. According to current w, I was not pulling my weight in the relationship. I was out of work at the time of BD. Current w also said she was not satisfied with our sex life (more recent conversations lead me to believe that she didn't think it was that bad). Nonetheless I will work on that for whatever relationship I find myself in next. Both w's fell out of love with me. Still I am in the same position twice and need to figure out the common things.

That is enough of a novel for now