How's that going to bed earlier working out for you? 😃
Good for you for insisting on your share of the car. Somewhere in that tunnel reality is calling your H.
I don't think there is much you can do about his behaviour with OW outside in the great big world. As FY said boundaries are for US and have to have some sort of enforceability factor. You can't follow him all over town trying to monitor their behaviour. Although her outfits might give you a good laugh.
Level of contact always depends on how you feel. Because that can be enforceable boundaries. For example, maybe you can keep in contact but no more accepting dinner dates in the house he shares with OW or any dates at all. So much depends on where you are at. I never made the decision to go NC with xSO, it happened when I stopped initiating any contact. Since he did not contact me we went months without a single contact. I am not suggesting that for you. But maybe think of going dim, for you, so that you can decide what you want to do. You can always up the dimmer switch later if circumstances change.
I hope that helps but even more I hope it helps that we are thinking of you and trust that you will do the right thing for you.
