Today, I got home from work and H hadn't been home all day. Never came home after work this morning. Also, I had NO contact with him at all today.
So, I loaded up the kids and headed to our little downtown area to Trick or Treat, all by myself. About a mile from our house, H passes us, headed home.
He calls me and asks where we're headed. Then, he says, "Well, I didn't know we were going to Trick or Treat downtown."
Okay, he asked me about it several times yesterday! The MLC fog stole his memory, I guess.
Anyway, after Trick or Treating, I headed to my sons' football games, where H met up with me.
Here's a couple of odd things.
He said he didn't come home today to sleep because he was "driving around all day." That for the past two weeks, he just can't sleep, no matter what. This is the first time he has really admitted, in any way, that BD #2 has upset him or his routine.
Then, he made sure he told me that he did not go to his hometown (an hour away) where the OW works and lives...he very well may have gone to see if she'd talk to him...but he was adamant in letting me know that he did not do that...
It doesn't matter to me, either way (I'm detaching, ya know?), but usually he would just have not told me any of it. His usual MO is to just hide everything. Instead, he wanted to be sure I knew he didn't go there.
I mentioned that it was ok for him to sleep at his friend's house after work, if he needed to, if he didn't want to come home or was too tired to drive the 30 minutes home. (He was doing often, before BD #2).
He then said, "No. That's nice for you to say, but, definitely not. If I stay at J's house, then we'll just drink too much and that's the only way I'll sleep. I'm not going to be drinking for awhile like that."
Huh?? Since when?
So, he's definitely "thinking" about things. When he really needs to think, he always takes a drive. So, if he drove around a lot today, then he was thinking about stuff.
Then, he's been drinking pretty heavily for the past couple of months and hasn't been hiding it all. I haven't been giving him a hard time about it or anything....but he made the comment that he didn't need to be going to his friend's house to drink.
He was still pretty quiet this evening, but did visit with me about the football games and seemed to enjoy watching the kids play. I only texted him once tonight, at his request, to give him the final score of our oldest son's game.
He's definitely thinking a lot about stuff....I will just have to work hard not to drive myself crazy wondering WHAT he's thinking about!!! And, it's a small victory, but for 2 WHOLE days, I've been pretty dim. Go, me! Lol.
