Flaunting it around town is not a boundary that I can set, or can I?
Why not? Setting a boundary doesn't mean you can prevent him from crossing it.
In order for boundaries to be effective, there has to be a consequence for crossing them. Think hard what this consequence will be before setting it. Then, if he crosses your boundary, you MUST follow through... or you lose future credibility. This is why you only set boundaries and consequences you are prepared to uphold.
Your H likes to be good buddies with you. (at times) Tells you all kinds of stuff about his life, much like my W does me. It seems to me, he'd not want to loose this. The reality is though, that if he keeps on his present course, he just may. He needs to begin to realize this, before it's too late.
I definitely would set up some kind of boundary/consequence for this behavior, just because you find it so disrespectful.
Keep us posted!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
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