Hey J. That ^^^^^ right up there, tells me something. These three men, Mach, AJ, and Truegritter walk the walk. Three of the best guys around.
When I first came here, I just couldnt get it. I mean I went round and round. Blamed myself for everything. Db seemed counterintuitive. I didnt understand what people where telling me. I would argue, get angry.
Until one day I was tired of feeling as bad as I felt. Mach wouldnt give up on me. And trust me, he was tough. He asked the hard questions. And I thank God he did.
This is tough. But man, what it can do for you. The thing of it is that we all want you to get to the good stuff. The part where you become the man you want to be. The part where you understand that this is her journey. There isnt anything you can do to fix her, no matter how much you want to. The part where you realize that no matter what, you will be ok.
So, it is your choice how you decide to act, to think, from here on out. Your choice whether to judge or not, whether to continue to try to figure her out or let her go. All your choice.
If you think that dbing is a laundry list of things to get the desired effect or to fix it for her, you are reading it wrong.
Here's how you support her while not pursuing. You detach, you GAL, and you look within. You do not allow her actions or words to affect your actions or words. You act like the man you want to be not to get a reaction but, regardless of the reaction.
Every day you be that man. Some days you'll make it, some you wont. But that should always be the goal.
So, if you are really ready to dig in, the boys will be back. This aint for the faint of heart. But neither is standing for a MLCer.
