RL, I am so happy for you to set those boundaries with H. He needs to know that you are not going to allow him to walk all over you. You are such a wonderful person RL and you don't deserve for h to flaunt ow and her "stuff" in front of you.
Eventually he is also going to see that life would not be that good without you and he has it pretty darn good.
It also sounds like your MIL is alot like mine. They don't like what our H is doing and they are behind us but don't know how to help. My MIL said she watches what she says because right now my h is living with them and she doesn't want him to run to ow. I respect that.
For you I hope that this change in you will help your h realize things are going to change. I agree with job though rt knows exactly what she's doing. She is putting pressure on your h and if he shows any doubt about being with her she is going to turn up the heat.
Unfortunately I am finding out that is it very difficult for our h's to finally let go of ow. Mine keeps going back to her. I think my mistake was to put a little too much pressure on H when things were going good.
So, so proud of you Rosa. I'm sure your h didn't expect that! Keep it up.
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