wife hardens heart-5

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I'll admit I'm a bad parent in the past. I realized I spend way too little time with them.

Nevertheless, I always believe in choices. I'd give a choice between vege A or vege B. No ice-creams in between. Book A or Book B. Fun Place A or Fun Place B. That they'll decide.

After BD and especially after I moved out, everything changed. Their mom will buy ice-creams and give junk food. D4 gets more cartoon hours. The kids don't have to nap if they don't want to. Late hours too i think. MIL is the same and say they'll grow out of it. BTW, SIL is a junk food junkie. My kids have absolutely no access to such things if I was taking care of them past and present.
All the things we used to talk about being tough on them and discouraging junk food all went down the drain. It's not to say W is being a bad parent. She prepares home cooked wholesome meals for the kids during the weekends and does her best parenting them. However, we are not on the same page regarding D4's behaviour lately.

D4 might not enjoy time with me because i discourage cartoons and no junk food. D3 on the other hand, loves interacting with people so she stays off the TV. D4 is becoming increasingly distant. I just don't know why. She doesn't opened up to me.