I'd say the same things to my kids.

"Both W and I don't really force things onto our kids.
They get to decide what they really want."

Then you're a rotten parent. To parent means to direct your kids to make the right choices. Since when did the children have the power to tell the adults what to do?

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER