You'll think of me....

[uRworthy]

My friend, I wanted you to know something. When all this began for me, I had gotten very small in my marriage and in my life.

I needed to work really hard to grow. Really hard.

I see in you some stuff that I used to see in me. We are people pleasers. We love deeply. And those are good things.

The thing is that you cant be that, if they cause you to lose yourself.

Just because your h is in a MLC, doesnt give him the right to allow to you feel badly about yourself.

I feel like you do. I dont want that for you. You are a strong, amazing woman.

He is darn lucky to have you standing for him.

He needs to know that you respect yourself. He needs to know that in order to respect you.

There is absolutely no reason for you to feel uncomfortable setting those boundaries.

I know that it is hard for people like us who have a tough time with confrontation and who have a hard time with not wanting to upset anyone.

But, you have a right to feel comfortable in your own home. You have a right to be respected there, too.

We teach people how to treat us.

It is time for your h to see a new Rosa. One who acts from a place of strength, not fear. One who loves him, but, loves herself, too.

I will keep the pep talks going for as long as you need me to. I believe in you, my friend. I just want to see that you do, too.