@Pud - thanks, your comments are always so supportive and appreciated.
@PatientMan - I know my track on here is a bit confusing, so here's a brief history. XW1 moved out in 2006, I joined in earlier 2009, "officially" divorced in April 2010, although I'd say any semblance of a relationship was gone in early 2007. Dunno why I held on so long... Met W in May 2010, married in Nov 2010 (I know, a short courtship). W started with depression mid 2012, and BDed in Aug 2013. Regardless, I absolutely accept your advice, and I even told W we should take some time to let things settle even though we both REALLY want to be together right now. She actually asked me to come spend the night with her (no sex) because she just wanted to be close to me. Not a good idea!
@2nd - EA and OM are the same, so I'm now just referring to him as OM. He was there last Sunday to get her car. She said he works 14-16 hours Mon-Sat, so over the last month they've maybe seen each other twice, partially because she abruptly ended the PA saying it wasn't right. I'm sure that was a little offputting to OM, but I dunno. W is going to call OM to cut off all communication, and no, she said it won't be easy. He has done a lot of stuff for her, like helping her move into her house, fixing her car, etc, and she considers him a very good friend at this point. Also, he pretty much has no friends, so she knows it'll be hard. But even though she admits it will be difficult, she has given me zero resistance on cutting off the contact. She is almost angry if I say anything about OM, and she will very sharply say, "I'm going to be married to YOU and that's the only thing I want." She even told me she'd be alone before she would ever continue a relationship with OM.
@Wonka - Thanks for your kind words. I don't expect the new few weeks/months to be easy, so I keep working on the next hour, and then look ahead to the next hour.
------------------------------ Funny story: W told me she'd be off work at 12:30 today, and asked me if I wanted to meet her for lunch. I had left my phone in the other room, and didn't get her text until about 12:45, so I texted back and apologized, and said I couldn't make it.
She texted me back about an hour later, and said she had gotten stuck at work doing lab work. Weirdly, she then texted me a picture of her lab. I just said, "Oh, that's cool." She called me about an hour after that and said she sent me the picture so I'd know she was at work and nowhere else.
She invited me over again to spend the night. Sigh, I'd love to go, but I know we need space, so had to decline.
