Jon, no 2x4 required, you did a great job! You listened, you avoided turning it into a convo about you, you remained calm even though she was really emotional and you didn't rush back into anything. Well done! If/ when you tell her you're ready to work on things, reaffirm your previously stated boundaries with her. Work out something for MC. Check into Retrouvaille. If she's serious then these will be things she WANTS to do rather than obstacles.
