For what it's worth, J needs to hear the truth. He needs to hear what Mach has to say.
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J, it is true that you are only beginning this path. And it is your decision if you CHOOSE to walk it. What I can also tell you is, that in the beginning of my journey I wanted the easy way out, heck, we ALL wanted that.
The ONLY way to take the focus off of MLC, and turn it around to where it should have been ( on myself), was that absolute truth that I had to face every day.
We can commiserate, remember, offer advice, background, share stories that are oddly familiar on this board. But in the end, Mach is right about J needing to hear the truth and take the hard look. So far it's been "We are both..." and "Yes, but" which is certainly par for the course at this early juncture. To really get a good look, one really has to look at oneself apart from the spouse. MLC or not.
Interested to hear how you'll respond, J.
-aj
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
