I do see that it could be taken harshly, and I knew that when I said what I did...
I didn't get the the point that I am at by only answering the easy questions, or taking the easy road.
I remember exactly where J is at, and how he feels. I remember that "burn" that went up the back of my neck when I would read something like that, and it was directed at me.
I remember trying to "let the clutch out slowly"
And I can tell you this, and you know this FY.
MLC takes no prisoners, especially with the male LBS (posters) with a wife in the throws of MLC.
MLC is in your face, every second of every day, and it takes no break from it UNTIL, we have the strength to change it....
We can only change that, from the truth within ourselves....
There is no "easing" into this. There is no easy way to get information. We guys take this with a whole lot more pride than our superior counterparts do. Our egos are bruised, and our minds close, because as guys, we deal with the rational side of things before we can attack the emotional side of this (and most things).
I wasn't offered the chance to dip my toe into the pool of MLC before it smacked me in the face.
My only chance was to learn how to swim through this. My skin needed to be a whole lot thicker than it was, and had to start seeing ABSOLUTE TRUTH in order to see my role. No sunshine up my skirt...absolute truth in MY actions, in order to start healing, and becoming the person that I wanted to be....
And IF I couldn't handle the cold hard truth of my peers, then how was I ever going to be able to handle what my MLC wife dished out to me ????
J, it is true that you are only beginning this path. And it is your decision if you CHOOSE to walk it. What I can also tell you is, that in the beginning of my journey I wanted the easy way out, heck, we ALL wanted that.
The ONLY way to take the focus off of MLC, and turn it around to where it should have been ( on myself), was that absolute truth that I had to face every day.
