No problem. It's not rocket science in my house. It's conflict avoidance and mind reading at its best. I know I wanted to say, "You REALLY think I want to sign on for more of this crap long term? You gotta be crazy. I'm only putting up with this for the kids."
Sigh. He still does this stuff with us occasionally, and our D was final in 2005. And now he's got a GF of 2 years. I won't speculate what goes on in his head nowadays because I'd probably want to bang my head against the wall with whatever answer he has.
I only invited him to do things on those special days because I knew people whose spouses/former spouses dug their heels in and refused to move things around on the calendar. I wanted him to know that I had risen above that. Like I said, it really didn't matter to me one way or another. But my oldest daughter was really unhappy when he chose his solo pursuits over spending the day/weekend with him on Father's Day. Since she was hurt and didn't understand, it bothered me too. Especially since he's so engaged with them all the rest of the time. It didn't (and still doesn't) make sense.
Personally, I'll chalk this one up under the category of him feeling the need to tell me, "You're not the boss of me anymore. So there."
Go have your own party.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
