WHEN PATIENCE IS LOST

[reachingHigher]

Hi Ambiv!

I read your description from the book about neediness versus needing and had a little picture pop in my head. I do better with word pictures

So a pretty woman has a flat tire. It is raining. She has heels on and a pretty skirt and outfit and looks very nice. Her car is downtown in front of a cafe.

She grabs her raincoat and gets out to look at the tire. She is surveying it with her hand on her chin deciding what to do. An attractive man with an umbrella walks up to her and offers to change the tire.

Needing: That would be great! I don't know how to do it myself. Here is the special lug wrench for the tire and here is the jack. I'll just slip into the cafe for a minute to get some coffee while you are changing it. I'll buy you a cup when you're done.

She walks away with keys in hand, heels clicking on the sidewalk. She tosses her head attractively just as she opens the door to the cafe and gives him a big smile.

Will he join her for coffee afterward?

Neediness: Oh, thank you! But I'm sure you have more important things to do. She opens the door and rummages through the glove compartment for the manual. She bites her lip, on the verge of tears. I just dont know what to do. Tears start to slip out of her eyes. I don't have the money for a new tire. Everything is going wrong today. She looks sadly up at the stranger. I ran my stockings on this old car seat when I was getting my raincoat out. I just look like a mess. sniff, sniff. I can buy a cup of coffee for you if you were actually going to change the tire. I might be able to scrape up some change for it.

Will he join her for coffee afterward?